Good Morning! Is it
REALLY the last day of September already?
Goodness, where is the time going? I suppose it’s true that time seems
to pass quicker as one gets older; well, at least for some. I guess if you ask
a lonely senior citizen, he/she will say that the days just seem to drag on.
For me, however, it seems that days turn into weeks; weeks turn into months;
and here I am, on the brink of yet another winter. This is such a different reality than it used
to be when it took every bit of energy just to get through each day and each
day was filled with the same: sadness, pain, despair. For that, I’m incredibly
grateful.
Because my days are very full now, I have had to change some
of my thinking about time and priorities.
I’ve come to realize that each day is a gift and therefore, I don’t want
to waste time doing things that are not meaningful or life-giving. I’m also beginning to realize that the window
of opportunity passes quickly, and I may not get another chance to do or say
those things that I’d like to.
The weather in northern Michigan this weekend was truly
spectacular. The temps were in the mid-high 70’s with sunny skies; really just
perfect for doing anything outdoors. I headed into the weekend with the typical
“to-do” list that was about three times longer than the hours in the day. One
of my main priorities was getting the pool drained and winterized. Less
significant things included laundry, dishes, errands, and a whole lot of other
chores that never seem to get done. I woke
up on Saturday, full of energy and determination to get busy. Such good
intentions….Sigh…..
As I enjoyed my coffee and wrote my Saturday morning post, I
watched as the sun began to rise and marveled at how its rays seemed to set the
trees on fire in the back woods. The leaves here seem to be turning very
quickly this year; likely due to the cold summer. The REDS are more vibrant
this year than I’ve seen in many years. As I sat there watching the dawn turn
into daylight, I began to think about all the things I “had” to do that
day. I also thought about how beautiful
those trees were and how quickly the moment of opportunity to enjoy the display
of God’s glory would pass; after all, many of the red leaves are falling
already. (The vibrant reds of the sugar
maples are the first to turn; and often fall, well before the other species
even turn color). And so the struggle in mind began: so much to do; so little
time…..and such a gorgeous day and an opportunity to enjoy the beauty around
me. I pondered my list…and looked outdoors. It took very little time for me to
abandon my “to-do” list and make the impromptu decision that I was going to go
for a mini-color tour ride! The dishes will still be there when I get
home; the laundry wasn’t going anywhere and I still have a dozen pair of clean
underwear; the lawn furniture is perfectly fine for one more day in the garden;
and besides, I’ll combine my mini road trip with the errands I need to get done, so it’s a win-win, right? I’m the Queen of Rationalization!
My spur-of-the-moment decision wasn’t met with the same
enthusiasm though when I informed my friend that I was taking off for a few
hours, with no specific destination in mind (although the brand new Salvation
Army store in Houghton Lake was calling my name J).
“But you’ve been telling me you have so much to do; I thought we were closing the pool; the
leaves aren’t even at peak yet, why would you want to go now; but….you said…..you’re
always changing your mind”…and so forth, he began to lament. I explained that
the red trees were magnificent and if I didn’t go for a ride this weekend, I would
miss the window of opportunity because they would be gone before the official
color “peak” in about 10 days or so. He
shook his head, but ultimately realized that my time is my own to manage, and I
was going to do whatever I wanted anyway. And so, off I went!
As I drove the desolate highway north, I was overcome with
the beauty. Autumn in the north truly is spectacular. About half of the trees
are still green, but most of the reds are already at peak; exactly the reason I
wanted to go then. By this coming weekend when I travel to a wedding on Lake
Michigan and then north to Petoskey for a speaking engagement, the maples will
be bare. I kept reflecting on my friend’s statement, “But it’s not peak yet;
you should wait.” Hmmm….. This whole
situation reminds me so much about my journey.
How often we focus so much on the END…that we forget/fail to “ENJOY THE
PROCESS.” Sound familiar?
So many times when we begin a life-changing journey, we
develop the mindset that …. “When I reach goal….THEN….. I will be happy; THEN…..
I will buy that little black dress; THEN……I will feel good about myself.” We put all of our energy into “getting there”
that we forget to enjoy the process; to celebrate the little victories; to
rejoice in our progress……and THEN…….if we never reach our goal, we feel
depressed, defeated, and like a failure.
In our personal
life, we put off taking that trip UNTIL
we retire or the kids are grown up, but sometimes unexpected illness or other
life issues happen before we get to see that special “bucket-list” place. We
may have always wanted to learn to paint or dance and ‘one of these days’ we
will take that class….but something always gets in the way and before we know
it, we’re suffering with arthritis or otherwise “too old” in our minds to learn
something new. Sometimes, we save the
good dishes, that special dress, bottle of wine, or other treat UNTIL we have
something to celebrate. When my Grandma
Maszatics died many years ago, we found several brand new nightgowns in her
dresser that she never even worn because she was saving them, and yet she often
had tattered ones that were mended multiple times. In my “Old Theresa” days, I often received fancy,
expensive chocolates as a gift from the school children; I can’t even count how
many times those candies turned white or spoiled….just because… I was saving
them for…..for WHAT? Kids grow up very
quickly; loved ones age….and die, before we are ready to let them go; days turn
into weeks and weeks turn into months and we can’t do a thing about it; ……..and
LEAVES change color and fall to the ground whether we have our “to-do list”
completed or now. I’m SO GLAD that I took
that drive Saturday and another one on Sunday, because it’s raining now and the
ground is covered with red leaves that have fallen in yesterday’s wind.
And so, my friends…. I encourage you to think about your
journey….and ask yourself, “Are you enjoying the process of “Getting there” or
are you so focused on reaching your goal that you forget to celebrate the
journey and miss out on an opportunity to rejoice in each little victory?” Once you reach your goal, trust me, it
becomes even more difficult, because you don’t have those little moments of joy
like putting on a pair of pants and discovering that they zip! You don’t get that thrill of someone saying, “Wow…you
look AMAZING.” You don’t get the
excitement of taking a bag of clothes to charity that are now ‘too big’ to
wear. You don’t get the same “Happy
Dance feeling” when the scale reflects yet another loss; rather you rejoice
when the scale DOESN’T MOVE in the other direction. THIS is the time to rejoice; NOW is the time
to celebrate: TODAY is the time to be
happy in your progress, no matter how small it appears. Enjoy those moments; Celebrate that you are a
Work in Progress; Be energized that you are changing your life…..and mostly, BE
GRATEFUL for the opportunities you are given each day to be a better, kinder,
more peaceful, and loving soul. Certainly
you will rejoice when you reach your goal, but you are given opportunities each
day to rejoice NOW, regardless of where you are on your journey.
Life is so short. Kids grow up. People grow old. Summer days
pass quickly….but dishes will still be there later today; laundry won’t go away
on its own; the junk drawer will still be “junky” next weekend….but you may not
get the chance to visit that grandparent; jump in the pile of leaves with the
kids; take a walk in the woods; or laugh with an old friend.
I did end up getting the pool put away; and managed to do the dishes and start on the laundry, but there are still many things on the list to do, but SO WHAT? There will ALWAYS be things to do. I’m so grateful that I took that drive, enjoyed the warmth of the sun on my face, barbequed for likely the last time for the summer, and made a phone call to one of our group members. Ironically, even my friend, decided to take me on yet another color-tour drive on Sunday afternoon to the lake! The leaves are certainly more spectacular on the trees than they are right now, blowing across the backyard!
Cherish the day….be kind to yourself and others….and make
decisions today that will improve the quality of your life and those around
you!