I came face-to-face yesterday with another miracle…..by the
name of Diane. Diane is one of our Facebook
group members and, although I knew “OF” her and prayed for her for many months,
I did not have the privilege of meeting her until yesterday. Diane’s mother, Margaret, works with me at
the college. Diane lives in Florida and last August she as involved in a freak,
but VERY SERIOUS, accident involving an elephant. She was severely injured,
spent several months in the hospital, and underwent somewhere around 18
surgeries. She nearly lost her life and a
full recovery looked bleak. But
yesterday, she and her mother, came into my office so that I could meet this
remarkable woman. WOW! What an incredible lady!
In the course of the conversation, Diane mentioned that her
accident changed her life completely. It didn’t take me long to look into her
eyes and realize that the change she was talking about….although very real….did
not involve the physical signs of the trauma or the scars on her body…it was
the internal change of mindset. Because
she nearly lost it, she now values the gift of life in a way that you and I
probably cannot even comprehend or understand.
When I asked her why she was in Michigan, tears filled her eyes as she
looked at her mother (age 75) and she said that she wants to spend as much time
as possible with the people that she loves….before it is too late. I swallowed hard as I thought of all those people in my own life
that I value and love….and how many of them have gone before me. How I’d love
to tell them I loved them or have a cup of coffee…..just one more time. Makes me think about how busy I am…wonder if
the things that fill my days are really ‘all that important.”
In many ways, Diane’s
accident….although horrific, painful, and senseless….enriched her life and made
her a better person today. Her
faith….her sense of humor….her strength and courage….her gratitude…..all gifts
that grew and manifested themselves as a result of what we, at first perceived
as a horrible tragedy. Trust me… I am
not trying to make light of her suffering….it was absolutely awful, not only
for Diane, but for all those who loved her and recovery will take a
life-time. If she had a choice in the
matter, undoubtedly, the events of that day would have been different; much
different. After all, who sets out in
the morning thinking, “Hey, wouldn’t it be fun today to be picked up by an
elephant’s trunk and slammed unconscious back and forth against a cage
repeatedly, breaking bones and crushing ribs?”
She nearly died….and yet….she didn’t….and now, perhaps for the first
time…she truly LIVES. Remarkable….simply remarkable.
My conversation with Diane has been on my mind all day and
I’ve been pondering her words and their
meaning. What can I learn….what is God
showing me…..how can we all be helped by her experience…..how can I be
strengthened on my journey because I had the privilege of meeting her? So many things….so many thought are swirling
in my spirit….and ironically….NONE of them
have to do with diet or addiction…..but they all have to do with LIFE….and
change……and gratitude.
The morning of Diane’s accident, she had packed a suitcase
and said goodbye to her husband and children because she was planning on taking
a trip to Michigan to surprise her parents.
She was going to accompany a friend who was transporting an elephant to
Michigan for some sort of appearance somewhere.
While waiting for her friend to get ready, she was brutally attacked by
another elephant and a short time after saying goodbye to her family, she was
in the intensive care unit of a hospital fighting for her life. Her goodbye that morning could have very
easily been the final words she spoke to those she loved……but they weren’t…..because
GOD intervened and had another plan for her life.
Immediately I thought about my young cousin, Bridget, who
died in an auto accident a little over a year ago. I thought about my friend
and neighbor, Robert Humphrey, (his birthday would be next week), who died
suddenly a few weeks before Bridget when he was on his way home from a family
vacation. I thought about my own mother who died suddenly at the age of 54 when
I was in my 20’s (Goodness, wouldn’t she be over the moon that her “first-born,
self-proclaimed ‘never gonna get married’” kid is engaged?). I thought about my friend Carol Tilley, who went
through a horrific surgery last week to amputate her leg, and now faces
extensive physical therapy. I thought
about YOU…and ME….and each person who has reached out to me to share his/her
story of despair, addiction, depression, and/or obesity. Each of these situations….although
unique….have taught me to value the gift of life and to appreciate all that I
have been entrusted with. My
friends…regardless of what our life circumstances….the weight of the cross we are
asked to bear (or in many cases…CHOOSE….to bear)…..the road we must travel, regardless and in spite
of it all……we must remember that when we are blessed with the gift of a new
day…..we have MUCH To be grateful for!!!!!
We never really know the REASONS why we sometimes have to
struggle. We never really understand WHY things have to be so hard sometimes. We never really know WHY we can’t seem to
lose weight, or give up a habit, or why we keep failing to find
motivation. We can’t comprehend why our
relationships sometimes don’t work out; why our kids or friends or colleagues
disappoint us; why our loved ones or even ourselves get sick and have to
suffer. I don’t have the answers. I
don’t know why Diane was involved in that accident or why my loved ones died. I
don’t know why I had so many losses and allowed myself to become so grossly
overweight. I don’t know why it took me so long to do something about it. I
don’t know why it is so hard to lose and keep weight off. I don’t know why there is war; or famine; or sickness; or
death…..but I do know that each day I am given a choice….to LIVE….or to DIE
(not literally)…but die by giving up hope; choosing to be negative; choosing to
be bitter; remain angry; hold on to grudges; wallow in self-pity and to
HATE….my body; my life; my reality; or people.
For far too long, I chose to do NOTHING but wallow in my
misery and pain. I chose to ignore my reality and my responsibility. I chose to
be miserable and continue to make the choices that nearly cost me my life. I chose darkness, because for some reason… I
THOUGHT that was my fate; I THOUGHT that was the ‘hand I was dealt’; I THOUGHT
that was what I deserved in life. I THOUGHT…..it would be too hard to change;
that I was too weak; that life would never be any different. BOY, oh boy…..Thanks to the incredible grace
of GOD… I can freely admit, that I THOUGHT WRONG!!!!!!
I had a choice!! I
HAVE a choice….each and every day….with each and every breath. YOU….HAVE…..a choice too! Each of
us….regardless of our circumstances…regardless of our “scars”….regardless of
our size, our addictions, our past failures, our reality….EACH OF US….is given
the opportunity each day to choose gratitude or despair; to choose joy or
despair; to choose trust or doubt. Our
endings will be different….not everyone will reach his/her goal; not everyone
will avoid sickness….or even death….not everyone will have the ‘happy ending”
or outcome that we THINK WE WANT….but when we surrender our thoughts, lives,
and bodies to God completely, we will end up EXACTLY where we are supposed to
be. People like Diane remind me that
life is precious and our lives can change in the blink of an eye. IT makes me ask myself….”THERESA……what have
you done today…to make someone’s life better?
What have you done today….to show God that you are grateful for the gift
of another day? What have you done today
to leave an impression on someone so that if I were to draw my last breath
today, someone would feel that loss?”
These questions make me go….HMMM…….and cause me to think twice about the
choices I make and the actions I take. They make me choose wisely about the
food I choose to eat as well because I want to be as healthy as can for as long
as I can so that I can continue to rejoice in the life I have been given.
As I go about my day today…and in the coming days… I will
think of Diane…and ask myself….. “Is the food I eat today going to strengthen
my body so that I can continue to LIVE the life that GOD has given me? Are the thoughts I am thinking going to help
me be a kinder, more loving person…or are they selfish, bitter, hateful, or
envious? Am I looking for the GOOD in
all things and being grateful for the blessings in my life….or am I wallowing
in the misery, pain, and worthlessness of my reality? And mostly…am I doing what I need to do to be
the best person I can be today?
Today….like Diane….like Carol Tilly…..like so many of you that cross my
path… I CHOOSE to fight the fight; do what it takes; value those I love; and be
GRATEFUL. What do you choose????
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